28 April 2014

An abandoned life... sort of

I've been living abroad for about three years an a half by now. And, wow... time really goes by. 

Before leaving the country I was born, I never gave much thought to the fact that I was going not going to be present for important events and milestones of my friends... my beloved ones. And beyond that, missing their development as they embark into new challenges and adventures... the impossibility to be there and help or be part of it. Or even the fact that they would be also barred from my events and developments.

Events and milestones like my brother's (and other friends) university graduation, Bryan's entrepreneurial explorations, or new meaningful relationships and people in my friends lives. And the list could go on for a while.

Personally, I do not place much value on marriage, at least not on itself alone. But I'm on a stage of my life where some of my friends are getting married. And for them, it seems that it is at some level important. Certainly I'm not a good guest in weddings and their parties, as far as my experience goes in non-friend weddings. Anyway, the point is that I would have liked to be there with them, just because they're my friends.

Wedding rings
For the most part, I really dislike this symbol.
I'm sure that this situation is a very common one for most of the people in similar circumstances than me. Those who decided to leave their lives behind and embark in something new of their own. Luckily for me, I'm not that sentimental or attached to things and people to make this situation make me feel really bad. But certainly makes me slightly sad, every now and then. However, I recognize that this is part of the price I have to pay for what I've developed, learned and experienced over these last three and a half years. One has to keep that in mind... regularly.

Sometimes is hard, in particular when you have awesome friends as I do believe I have, but for the most part it's just life. They don't stop being awesome by not sharing as much as before. And even when friendship means sharing important milestones and events in life, it's also so much more than that... and I'm there for that.

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